Stories have the power to change the world … they inspire us, teach us, connect us. This is the eighth installment in the “Stories That Change The World” series.
I shared this on my Facebook page today as I was remembering my experience on Friday, June 26, 2015 when SCOTUS ruled in favor of Marriage Equality.
I was headed to Raleigh, North Carolina on Friday morning to get together with 27 other moms of lgbt kids from a private Facebook group for moms of lgbt kids.
I arrived at the airport about 8:45 AM and was in the security line checking my phone for any SCOTUS news. I was checking my twitter account as it is usually the first place to get the news. Right before I got to the check point I saw that SCOTUS had put “FOUR” boxes up! I suddenly got very hopeful and began thinking “this is really going to be the day”.
About that time I had to show my ID and boarding pass and put all my stuff in the buckets and go through the check point. They ended up pulling me over and sending me through the xray machine, checking my hands with some solution to see if I had recently handled certain incriminating chemicals and patted me down. The whole time I’m thinking “I need to check my phone!”
As I was hurrying to put my shoes back on and get my stuff together so I could once again check my phone I heard it ringing (well, it was actually playing the song “Build Me Up Buttercup” because that is my present ringtone haha) and I began to dig through my purse to grab my phone.
When I saw that it was one of my best friends calling I had a feeling it had to be about SCOTUS. I quickly answered “Hi, Jenny” and she screamed “CONGRATULATIONS” … I asked “Did they pass it?” and she said “YES YES” … the tears started to flow and I expressed my happiness to the point that I think people in the airport started staring at me. haha
After that I immediately called my son, Nick. We spoke through tears of joy in incomplete sentences to each other. Next I called my husband and scared him to death … I was crying and he couldn’t understand what I was saying. He had just dropped me off at the airport less than thirty minutes ago and he had no idea why I was crying. I finally settled down so he could understand me and he was ecstatic too. In the meantime my youngest son had texted me “Gay marriage legalized!!!” so when I hung up from my husband I called Joey. We had a similar conversation and just kept saying how happy we were.
My phone continued to blow up with notifications and text messages and phone calls from friends …lots who were moms of lgbt kids.
My plane was delayed 2 hours but I stayed busy texting with friends, interacting with the moms in the Facebook group, posting stuff, reading stuff. I knew there was going to be some hateful stuff but I decided to avoid any of that on Friday and just let the day be nothing but pure joy and happiness and celebration.
I arrived in Raleigh late afternoon and met up with the group about 5PM. We had a wonderful time together. We had a champagne toast in the evening as someone read these words from Justice Kennedy:
“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.
-The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.”
We raised our glasses and across the room you could hear murmurs of: “It is so ordered” “TO love” “equality” “hear hear” “cheers”.
Tears were mixed with smiles – we drank – we hugged – we laughed from pure joy!
Our dream had come true.
We know there is more work to be done and we are ready. But on Friday we just rested in that place of celebration together … happy – relieved – hopeful!
If you are interested in joining the private Facebook group for Christian moms of LGBT kids send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and put Mom’s Facebook Group as the subject.
Serendipitydodah for Moms is a private Facebook group for moms of LGBTQ kids. Our official motto is “We Are Better Together” and our nickname is “Mama Bears” The group is set up so only members can see who is in the group and what is posted there. It was started in June 2014 and as of June 2016 has more than 1,900 members. For more info email lizdyer55@