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This “Learning & Growing Together” series includes posts I have shared in my private Facebook group for moms of LGBTQ kids. The group, Serendipitydodah for Moms, is a place where moms of LGBTQ kids share a lot of support, information and encouragement … it is a place where moms of LGBTQ kids are learning and growing together with the purpose of developing and maintaining healthy, loving, authentic relationships with their LGBTQ kids. One thing I love about the private Facebook group is we are all both teachers and students – we all learn from each other. I love that kind of community learning. The wisdom and insight is so rich. For more information about the group email me at lizdyer55@gmail.com


This is a very stressful time for many of us. I’m hearing from many who are saying they are sad, anxious, worried and stressed. It’s always important that we take care of ourselves but especially at times like this. Stress, anxiety and depression can lead to some serious health issues if we are not intentional about taking care of ourselves.

Here are some “Self Care” ideas that I have found helpful. I hope you will share your own “Self Care” ideas in the comments:

*Drink water! Your body needs it. The link between water and stress reduction is well documented. All of our organs, including our heart and our brain, require water to function properly. Without enough water, we fall prey to dehydration which can cause stress.

*If you are an animal lover spend some time with animals. If you have a pet take time to cuddle and play with your pet – or visit your local animal shelter or sanctuary – the animals there will thank you and you will feel better afterwards.

*Take a walk! First, make sure that you can go for a walk and be safe. Maybe you need to walk before it gets dark or maybe you should walk with someone else. I think outside is best but if that isn’t possible maybe you can go to an indoor mall or gym and walk there. My gym has an indoor track that I often walk on. The point is to walk if you can. Like any other cardiovascular exercise, brisk walking boosts endorphins, which can reduce stress hormones and alleviate mild depression.

*Get some fresh air. If you can’t get outside to go for a walk try opening up some windows in your home or sitting on a patio or porch for an extended time. I find that fresh air is very calming.

*Listen to music. I have to be sure and not let myself listen to a lot of sad music at times like this but other than that music is a real stress buster for me. And when I combine it with walking, dancing or some other form of physical activity it helps even more.

*For those who like to read take time to indulge in a good story. It’s easy to spend all of our reading time on news articles and non fiction. Reading for fun and enjoyment is good for us. It’s one of the best ways to relax and even six minutes can be enough to reduce our stress levels by more than two thirds, according to new research. Research says it works better and faster than other methods to calm frazzled nerves such as listening to music, going for a walk or settling down with a cup of tea.

*Laugh. Whether you’re guffawing at a sitcom on TV or quietly giggling at a newspaper cartoon, laughing does you good. Laughter is a great form of stress relief, and that’s no joke. When I need a good laugh I often pull out my Ellen DeGeneres video “Here and Now” – it’s one of the best! I always feel better after an hour with Ellen doing stand-up!

What about you? How do you deal with stress?


Serendipitydodah for Moms is a private Facebook group created as an extension of the Serendipitydodah blog. The group is private so only members can see who is in the group and what is posted in the group. The group was started in June 2014 and presently has more than 1,400 members. The space was specifically created for open minded Christian moms who have LGBTQ kids and want to develop and maintain healthy, loving, authentic relationships with their LGBTQ kids. In addition to providing a space for members to share info and support one another, a special guest is added each month for a few days. The guests include authors, pastors, LGBTQ people, bloggers and public speakers.

For more info email lizdyer55@gmail.com